I have finished my cat’s, Tiger Lou’s, memento mori box. Although, I need to get better photos of it. I also need to get my 35mm lens checked out (digital), if it’s placed on a specific setting it usually is ok (as in manual or auto focus) , but last time I worked with it, it was so stubborn. I should have taken better care of it, I’m honestly unsure of how it happened exactly; I can only assume that I must have dropped it at some point. I’m sure I did. Anyway the box; It is finished. I adore memento mori. I am not saying it should come back in fashion, but I do feel that the art of it would be nice to see again. I wouldn’t be against it coming back however…
It’s taken a long time for me to finish it, due to life. I also wasn’t sure exactly what to do with it design wise. I didn’t really have something of hers’ to really incorporate until I remembered the little bunch of fur that was clipped from her before she was cremated. I would love to actually do some hair tying, but fur is a little impossible. I folded the bag the hair was in and clipped it inside the glass. It has puffed up like a pillow. It’s lovely. The inside isn’t so great, but I really couldn’t think of much. If I ever do, I will most likely fix it.
The art of memento mori is something I’ve wanted to actually work on for a while, I find the meaning a pure form of love, one that VERY obviously states; “I will never forget.” For, as we should all know that forgetting is true death. Memento Mori photographs are haunting and also beautiful, I’ve always enjoyed looking at them and figuring out who was the deceased, their status in life, and how long they may have been expired for, along with how the photographer propped them up and kept working with props and cleaned the photos up. There are some photos that are stunning and make me feel sad that the passed individual could not see how beautiful their final image was before they left the living. It is also true that I have spent more hours admiring these photos and searching for them than a girl of my age should. I was able to make a creamation coffin for a girls’ mother, which I found to be a very honorable duty. I would hope that it is not my last request to incorporate a past individual into lasting art for the living individual. I believe it also helps with the grieving process and that is something in my long list of things that I would love to do in my life. I think it would be great to help grieving individuals and direct funerals. I know it sounds rather miserable to the average person, but when one thinks of it, that is a job that should be filled and it isn’t just a dirty job, it is one that can really help a person back on their feet. I have witnessed so many funerals/memorials and such for people in my life that expressed absolutely no life to the person. Lacking completely in whom they were, what they did and completely devoid of any life: that’s misery. That is also the last thing a person will recall of said person and it will cause them grief when thinking, “damn it”. Or so I do, I’ll admit, I can be pretty harsh on critiquing everything that goes on. I just don’t say much because it would be considered inconsiderate and who am I to judge? I have no papers…amirite?
Now my idea is not just a funeral home, it’s a wedding chapel as well. Yes, one in the same, maybe even at the same time, I have a name written down, I even have some splendid ideas on the kind of music required and the people to higher. I really have had so much fun with this idea as it builds up more and more. I will say the wedding chapel will be far more lenient and fun, while the funerals would be more along the lines of proficient and serious, although adding a good touch of fun still. It’s certainly something I would love to see happen because of its uniqueness, it would also require me to go back to school and probably do something’s I don’t think I really want to do. I’m thinking of business classes…I am also positive I would have to deal with cadavers, which isn’t so bad but I know my empathy levels and I do not have faith that my empathy would permit me to be able to last long in that part of the education. Dealing with coffin works would be different than preparation before hand, and I would be incapable of clearing my head of the individual’s life and the tragedy of death and then the second, and more nihilistic form of tragedy that would include the concept of simply sucking out all that made this organism anything but a shell. The emotional roller coaster of thoughts and energies carried from one place to another, wouldn’t do so good for my positive vibes that I am trying to pass around. This is the part of the field that I am unsure of wither it would work or not, which is why I feel I would have to go into this with a partner. I would most likely have to research it more, ‘til then it’s a fabulous dream and one I can at least depict in stories. Trust me, I have ideas and plans.
If life leads me in that direction, I will know and I will consider it and possibly take it. I could line the walls in art and memento moris. That would be pretty exciting. I guess some people would just ask why I don’t simply open a gallery. That my friends, wouldn’t do much for society. Why can’t I have both? If you can make others happy, then you should do it. If you can help others, then you should do it too. If you can make yourself happy while making others happy and possibly helping them at the same time, then do it. I know it’s easier said than done. I also know that I ask for a lot sometimes, even the impossible, but I can always dream.